It’s difficult to lay a relationship to rest permanently because we are so emotionally invested in it. We grow with that person, share our hopes, dreams,wishes, we have children together, build a home together and we share almost everything with that person.
Then the years pass and we become totally disillusioned with the relationship and find ourselves blaming the other person for our inner unhappiness. We begin to find fault with the littlest of things and we just want out of the relationship.
We no longer enjoy being with that person and we go to bed every night staying on our side of the bed. Everything the person says to us becomes a personal attack or criticism even when it isn’t.
As the divorce progresses so do the arguments and accusations and the years of anger exposes itself in numerous destructive ways. The spouse that is being left tries to destroy their mate in the eyes of friends and family.
The one that has filed the initial divorce feels somewhat relieved as they move forward with their live. They finally enjoy dating without the concern of their spouse finding out and they are no longer under the umbrella of a cheater.
The problem begins to grow when they “commit” to that one person that they are only fucking. Men do not realize that the woman who they are fucking wants so much more from them.
Their new lady wants a commitment, she wants kids and she wants the white picket fence. She may pretend that she is just enjoying the time with the man but the real truth is she wants so much more than he is willing to give.
Men need to me sexually active with several women before they make a final commitment to another woman. They need to date several others so they can get their dicks wet and realize that they do want to be with just one woman.
They also learn that the woman that they want to be with isn’t some young girl but a seasoned woman. Men want more than pussy after the first six months of being separated. They want a woman of substance and one that can give them stability as well as make their lives fun and exciting.
It’s really sad that men do not realize that the woman that is really nothing but a stepping stone through their divorce is going to be crushed emotionally. Young women are ignorant to the phases that a man goes through during a divorce and she has no clue that he is going to dump her.
Men rarely if ever stay with the first woman they date after they file for a divorce because she no doubt dropped her panties rather quickly for him. He also knows she is only with him for security and what she can get out of him financially.
The best thing a man going through a divorce can do is build a friendship with that one special woman. Having a friendship with a female brings so much fun and laughter into a man’s life without him feeling pressured.
The thing about building a friendship with a lady is it helps you through the period of confusion. Divorce is difficult and we do get lost and confused and we do need someone we can rely on without the pressure that comes with a one on one relationship.
The sunshine through my window danced across the wall leaving a ray of hope in it’s path.
My mind is scrambled, my feelings overwhelmed, my sense of self lost.
I am ill, very ill spiritually and need to find a repair kit.
I can feel the pain pouring out of my heart like a waterfall and the water pools at the
bottom instead of flowing freely.