I got pregnant at 34 and yes I was on birth control but it didn’t matter. My husband was 45 and he didn’t want anymore children. It was up to me to do what I felt was best for myself and being 34 I was on the cusp of being to old to have children safely.
My husband was twice divorced and had fathered three children but I wasn’t privy to that information. I was only told about one marriage and two daughters and of course the youngest daughter came to live with us and threw it in my face about the son I didn’t know about.
My husband was no disciplinarian and he wanted me to discipline his daughter which was plain bullshit. This caused so much friction and problems and I told him he had to be a father to his daughter.
Things got so bad she ended up moving back with her mother and I was so thankful because the x-wife was a total pain in the ass. She was really pissed he had remarried and the girls wanted their parents to get back together of course.
My husband didn’t want to father anymore children but he also saw the advantage of me having his kid and marrying me. He saw the material shit I had and since he lost everything in his divorce I would be a great catch.
I had so much going for me and he wanted to sink his greedy fucking teeth into what I had. We married and I gave birth to my daughter and he fell in love with her. a little over a year later I practically had to tie him down to get me pregnant as he didn’t want to have sex.
There was no love between us but I was bound and determined not to raise a child without a sibling. I finally got pregnant and gave birth to my son and my husband had no interest in him what so ever.
My husband was at the age that his work was his world and he wanted to go to work and get the respect from the men that worked for him. He didn’t want to play the daddy with the kids and he didn’t want to change diapers.
Looking back the worse thing that could have happened is that I got pregnant because men don’t want to be fathers to a new family. Men want to raise their family and move on into another phase of their lives.
They don’t want the young, pregnant wife and they don’t want to start over with another family. They are happy to raise their kids and once that is done they want to do all of the things that they couldn’t as a young father.
Men don’t want to do three a.m. feedings and diaper changes, they don’t want to listen to a crying baby and they don’t want to alter their lives to accommodate a young child again.
I’m glad I have my children but I wish they had a different father because my husband didn’t want to be a father again. He didn’t want to be bothered with raising another family and the worse thing any woman can do is expect a man to want another family.
Some men think they are ok with having another family but when the baby comes and the crying begins they start wishing they had made a different decision. If you are a man dating a much younger woman be very careful as she will do everything possible to get knocked up.
She will lie to you and say she is happy just dating you but the truth is she is hoping to get pregnant every time she spreads her legs. She will “forget” to take her birth control and she is secretly hoping that she will accept your seed as her own.
Yes, it is sad but true young women will do what they have to get a man to marry them. They will lie and say whatever they have to so they can get your child within their body.
Once they are pregnant with your child then they expect you to marry them. This isn’t the 50’s and men no longer feel the need to marry a girl who is pregnant. Men no longer have to live in shame if they chose not to marry the girl who is with their child.
A smart man will not let a young woman get to close and begin to think that marriage is around the corner. A smart man will not let any woman trap them in a situation that they don’t want to be with for the rest of their lives.